When Ayaan Hirsi Ali said that a black person is better off in America than many other places and is shouted down her response is one word, “travel.” As you wrote, a point of reference -and- people will find what they are looking for.

You are looking for the good and I am happy for you that you are finding it. I’m an old white man so my words mean little in this kind of conversation on Medium but you sir are a breath of fresh air in this sea of people determined to be miserable.