I'm not trying to make rules for anyone and I'm certainly not angry or in need of the comfort of them agreeing with me or liking me. Hate away, but I don't think hate is a cure for hate. If I'm attached to anything it is to reducing and hopefully ending the racism of attaching the negative attributes of a subset of a group to individuals in the group who are not a part of that subset. I don't see how that can happen if that is what you do.

When I say that the top down system work is largely done I do not suggest that all is well although it is a hell of a lot better than it once was. I suggest that people work on the bottom up attitudes that permit racism (assumptions about someone because of the group they are in). I think that it takes real life interaction. I realize that especially during the covid-19 isolation it is harder than ever for that to happen. I've probably had more occasion for it since my circle of friends and close acquaintances throughout my entire adult life is more diverse than many people's. It's also more comfortable from behind a keyboard for many people than to do in person, I understand that.

Your response is why I often drop conversation about things we disagree on. I am wrong (100%), followed by a lecture on why I'm wrong, sometimes with a questioning of my basic humanity and accusations. I'm not always up for that. You may or may not have noticed that I don't respond to you in kind.

As I wrote, there is no way to prove that I have a more positive influence on changing attitudes than internet oracles but I'll ask you directly. Do you think there's no chance of that and that I am 100% wrong? Is there something basically wrong with what I do with regard to bottom up interpersonal positive influence and I should stop? Making a friend isn't about my comfort, it makes for a more cooperative world. I don't call out all white people on the internet but I call the individual ones out to their face personally when it is justified. I'm not in anybody's way. They couldn't care less about me if they don't know me and will continue their steady unhappy drone of complaints.

As an aside, I have a sizable number of friends and close acquaintances who came to America from Vietnam, Cambodia, Laos, Korea, China, Russia, Cuba and the Czechoslovakia. They don't complain about how awful America is and actually like it here where they have less to be unhappy about than where they came from. That probably influences my thoughts and perhaps it shouldn't since people don't all have the same personal references.

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